Pearls of Wisdom

Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai, Five-day International Retreat,
Long Beach, CA, U.S.A., December 28, 1996
(Originally in English) Videotape No. 573

Marriage doesn't mean bondage and slavery. Marriage is just a partnership. Each one must encourage the other. Some people misunderstand, and that's why a marriage doesn't work. But you have to be the understanding one and try to reason. Only after numerous trials and trepidations and nothing works out might you consider, for your own spiritual development and safety, which course is appropriate for you and for him.


Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai, Five-day International Retreat,
Long Beach, CA, U.S.A., December 28, 1996
(Originally in English) Videotape No. 573

So be the one that you desire to have, instead of having the one that you desire. Just be the one. If you want your husband to be romantic, why don't you be that way? Then he will learn, he will cooperate. Or if you want your wife to be nice and romantic, then tell her what you need from her, tell her what you like, or hint in a very special way. Work at your partnership and bring out the best in each other. That is the best.


Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai Five-day International Retreat,
Long Beach, CA, U.S.A., December 28, 1996
(Originally in English) Videotape No. 573

Love, like trees and flowers, also needs watering every day, at least in the dry season. Otherwise it dies. People think, oh! I love you, and then it will be forever. No, no. You have to nourish it through devotion, through daily renewal, through appreciation of each other's value and loving kindness, and help your partner to develop the best qualities within him or herself. That's true marriage. That's true partnership.

 


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