It's
similar in human relationships: The more you look alike, the more
that means you get on well in the relationship. First, because you
like each other, you look more alike; because the expression and
the thinking are the same, and so your outer appearance changes.
And that's why people, after they practice the Quan Yin Method,
look more beautiful. It's natural. You want to become God, and God
is beautiful. And you are moving toward a more God-like, more angel-like
quality. That's why, when people look at you, they just feel you
are beautiful, even if you're lame, if you're an amputee or you're
bald, or you walk like a hunchback. Because the inner God quality
shines; it's shining and shining and makes everyone feel very good.
Because you look like God now. And God loves God; like attracts
like.
So if
a couple looks very much alike, they will love each other more and
more every day. Because let's face it: We love ourselves the best.
Is that not so? We take hours to look in the mirror and comb our
few left-over hairs, and take care of a few strands of beard and
things like that. We love ourselves, and that is correct. Problems
only arise when we hate ourselves. That's the most sinful thing
we can do. We are God. If we cannot love ourselves, no one else
can. And if we don't love ourselves, it means we don't love God.
If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot love anyone else. It doesn't
matter who tells you to love others before yourself, love thy neighbor
and things like that. Love yourself first and then thy neighbor
will be the same.
If you
don't love yourself, you cannot love others in the same way. You
don't know what love is. Only if you love yourself can you take
good care of yourself. Then you know what the other likes, too -
what it feels like when you really love yourself and take care of
yourself, what is comfortable for you. Then you know how to offer
the same to the next person, because you know what makes him or
her comfortable. Everyone likes me, because I know how to take care
of myself. I know what's good for me. And I love myself, as you
can see. So when I take care of someone, he is smitten. Or she is
smothered, and swoons out. I know just exactly what she likes because
I know exactly what I like.
You
see that whatever I wear you like, no? Because I know what to wear
to make myself look good. I love myself. It's not that I spoil myself;
I look good in anything, and it's not because they're expensive
and not because my clothes don't look like yours. It's just that
I know what suits me. I look good in almost anything because I just
choose the one that suits me. It's not that I buy expensive things.
I wear expensive things, too, but that doesn't mean expensive things
make me look good. Anything makes me look good. And I look good
in almost anything because I buy the colors that I like. I just
have the feeling that it would be good for me. That's why it looks
good. I love to make myself look good. If I spend the same money,
why do I have to buy something that makes me look ugly? I have to
take the same trouble - washing and ironing and taking time to wear
and all the same trouble, then why should I pay money to make myself
look worse? That's the principle.
So if
I know how to look good and how to take care of myself, and if I
happen to take care of someone else, if necessary, then that person
must feel good. There is no choice but to feel good. I do not overdo
it. Everything I do is just exact and quick. And it looks good and
perfect and it feels good. Because I know how I like people to treat
me. I don't like nonsense or taking a lot of time, overdoing things
and smothering people. Just go right to the point.
So if
you really can take care of yourself and love yourself, there is
no one that you cannot take care of, and no one who does not feel
comfortable around you, even if you don't take care of them. Because
they feel you are just the kind of person they would like to be,
very easy and exact and simple and never going wrong.
So love
yourself; take care of yourself. But don't take a lot of time. Someone
told me, "You always look happy and satisfied with yourself."
I said, "Yes, I look good, and I feel good. I am good!"
I just feel confident. Maybe I don't look like the best woman in
the world, but I look good. So make yourself feel good. Pamper yourself
sometimes, even if you are busy. And take time sometimes for yourself.
Because you are the most worthy person on this planet. Everyone
is. You have only your own worth to take care of; other people are
worthy but that's theirs. So your worth is the most valuable. Take
care of yourself because you are God. Be good, feel good and be
noble. And go toward the goal of what you want to be.